We are all guilty of saying one thing and doing another. It’s impossible not to do it sometimes. But when it comes to character, a lot of us take it too far. We pretend to be someone we aren’t and even make ourselves believe it. And when people start to catch on, it makes them harder to like you. It’s easy to say we are going to change and pretend that we actually are. Eventually, you’ll look in the mirror and not even recognize the eyes staring back at you. That’s a hard place to be.
It’s best to just stay quiet and let your actions speak for you. Promises don’t mean anything unless you keep them. So accept that some people are seeing straight through your bullshit and do something about it. Life can’t be pure if you don’t remove your layers and give your true self the opportunity to break free. It takes time and hard work to grow as a person. It’s even harder if you’re trying to un-become who you once were. That’s the journey, though—enjoy it. Take your time and do your best not to get held back by anyone. If you outgrow people, that’s okay. Actually, that’s probably going to be a guarantee if you continue to make progress. And you have to be strong enough to let those people go. If you can’t, you’re not going to go anywhere.