I spent all night starting the creation of a new site. I am going to be switching over to a self-hosted blog, which means everything is going to be better. I am completely re-making the entire site, so it’s going to take me a bit to finish. But I plan to have a release date by tomorrow. And, this is the reason I didn’t post my prompt last night—I lost track of time while being completely submerged in creating this new brand. Today we start fresh.
I’ve been thinking about my future, my friends, my family, my obligations, my life in general. The process of this has made me realize how off track I actually am. I worry too much about other people—how they feel, what they’re doing, how they’re doing things. This has distracted me from everything that I should be doing. The path of someone else is none of my business; meaning I shouldn’t care so much because I have my own path that needs to be walked. Sure, I can take the lessons they have learned and maybe some advice, but I can’t mimic them. And, even though I know this—I even talked to all of you about not doing it—I’ve been tricking myself into believing I was following my own advice. Having the realization that your mind is playing tricks on you is quite funny. It makes you wonder how smart you actually are. It also makes you realize how much deeper below the surface the Universe goes. Anything can be placed on a grand scale if we let it. Or, we can choose to ignore the possibilities and live as mundane as possible.
When you think about goals, I assume the first thing that comes to your mind is all the reasons you can’t achieve them. That’s predictable, but it’s understandable—that’s the first thing I think of as well. I think, as humans, we are programmed to let fear grab the steering wheel before anyone else has the chance. We assume our fear should always be trusted. I don’t believe our fear should always be trusted, I believe it should always be evaluated—we need to understand what it’s trying to tell us and proceed from there. Letting it control us cannot be an option, especially when it comes to our future. Fear is the number one reason people don’t chase their dreams. It’s why so many of us quit before we even get started. It shouldn’t be that way. However, it is that way because no one teaches us how to mind the things inside our mind. That’s something we have to figure out on our own; and, if success and happiness are something you want for yourself, learning how to mind your mind is the first step.
How intimidating does that sound? I know, when I first started, I didn’t think I was capable of such a task. I mean, my mind has controlled me and played games with me my entire life. OCD isn’t exactly a walk in the park when it comes to controlling your own thoughts. Yes, I still struggle, I have bad days and I wonder if I can keep it all contained. Those times when you have zero idea what’s going on—and no vision of how to get it back together—that’s when you have to tell the fear to screw off and blindly take a step into the darkness.
Goals, decision making, fear, courage, etc., all lead back to one thing: instinct. Instinct is a hard thing to trust because it’s a game of 50/50—it’s either the right thing or the wrong thing. Taking the risk in learning how to understand what your instinct means pays off big time in the future. For me, I’ve always done my best to trust my instinct. That’s how I make most every decision—feeling. I’ve talked about it plenty; how I’ll hold two of the same object and weigh them in my mind, trying to figure out which one is right for me. My OCD has done a good job forcing that quality onto me. I used to hate it, but I’ve come to love it. I feel like it gives me an edge, and it also makes me unpredictable.
To start trusting your instinct, you really just have to dive in. When opportunity shows, take it and don’t think twice. A lot of the time our instinct will speak to us quickly and quietly. So much so, that we easily forget what it was trying to tell us. I found an easy solution to this problem: take a coin, take your two options, and name each option to either side of the coin. Tell yourself your decision will go with whatever side the coin lands on—and believe you’re going to go with it. Flip the coin, see which side it lands on…are you happy with the outcome? If you are even the slightest disappointed or concerned then you now have your answer. You just minded your mind. Cool.
Dreams can become reality. They can. It doesn’t take magic, or luck, or even god-given-talent. It simply takes hard work and believing in yourself. You’re going to be exhausted, you’re going to say no to invitations from friends, you’re going to get lonely, you’re going to question everything, but…you’re going to do it. You’re going to turn those dreams into a reality by giving it everything you got. The Universe rewards those who don’t take the journey for granted. Because, after all, the journey is what makes up our entire life.
I’m excited for my new site to launch. It’s going to be a huge step and a crazy one at that. I am so thankful for everything this blog has given me. Sticking to this has given me a reason to get out of bed every morning. I can’t wait to continue this journey. I’ll see you all later today.