I want to talk about expectations and explanations
Personally, I have experienced the push to always have an explanation for everything I’ve ever wanted to do. No matter how big or small, I’ve had to have a reason for doing something. On top of that, there’s been an expectation to do this thing (whatever it may be) in a certain way. But, why does everything have to be so serious? Why can’t we admit that we’re more clueless than we let on?
In previous blogs, I’ve talked about the scale of life; how we always find our way back to the center.
A quick explanation of the scale: one side of the scale is the bad (sad, depressed, lost, confused, stuck, etc.) while the other side is good (happy, motivated, inspired, radiant, etc.). The middle is just what you’d expect—a mix of both good and bad; which is usually the normal state of our lives.
Side-note: I am explaining the scale as nothing more than a figure of speech. I do not mean it in a way that describes how we react to the good or bad things (e.g. A person whose life seems to be completely on the bad side of the scale can be reacting in a way that’s extremely good). I simply mean it as a way to say that things won’t always stay good or bad—life will always, eventually, balance itself out.
Anyway, back to my original thought. I believe that we can be incredibly guilty of setting our expectations too high. Then, when things don’t go our way, we scream and yell at the universe, questioning what went wrong and why we couldn’t just get this one thing to go right. Personally, when I run, I have this expectation that I have to run this mile faster than I did the last time. Which can be a good thing, but for the most part, it’s actually a pretty bad thing to expect of myself. Sometimes, I simply need to jog a mile—one mile, in general, is always better than no mile at all. Not everything always needs to be better than the last.
This same thing was also true back when I posted consistently every day. I woke up each morning, anticipating I should get more views than I did the previous day. And, for a long stretch of time, I was getting great views and great interaction every-single-day; next thing I knew, I was getting worse views than I’d ever gotten. But, it eventually evened out and came back to what my average was. Refer back to the scale*
The point is, no matter what you’re going through, be conscious of the fact that things will soon change. Once you’re aware of this, it becomes obvious how incredible life is. Your perspective will inevitably shift and things won’t feel so heavy.
PART 2 – explanation – will be posted tomorrow 🙂
Have a beautiful day