Part 1 from yesterday: expectations – part 1
As for explanation…that is one of my least favorite things in this world. I believe that certain parts of our lives should be lived without the concern of having to explain our reasoning to everyone, or anyone. Some bigger examples of that would be getting a tattoo, going out of town for a few days, shutting your phone off for a week, etc. You don’t always have to have a legitimate reason that will make sense to anybody else.
Sometimes, you need to do whatever you want, without worrying about what the reaction of those around you may be. As long as no one is getting hurt in the process, go for it…shoot for the stars. The first step to actually doing things without explanation is accepting the reality of judgment. No matter what you do, how you do it, when you do it, or where you do it, you will be judged and/or ridiculed by at least one person. This fact is basically an invitation to just do the thing.
Next time you do something and someone asks, why? Just tell them you felt like it, that there was no deeper meaning, no big revelation that made you decide; you just did it. And, honestly, say this even if there was a deeper meaning to the thing. See how it feels to not explain yourself.
Overall, what I hope you take away from these two posts are three things:
1. If you ever find yourself setting any sort of expectation, set it a little low on purpose. Then, slowly, move the bar higher as you get better. The worst thing you could do is put something so far out of reach you’ll be left in constant disappointment.
2. Never get too attached to any kind of feeling. Instead, embrace them as they come. Because they will come, and they will be different each time they arrive. Ultimately, do your best to keep your feet planted on a level ground.
3. You’re allowed to do things for yourself without explanation or guilt. Really, your allowed to do anything (as long as no ones getting hurt) without explanation or guilt. It may not be possible all the time but try it once in a while. It’s worth it.