I’ve discovered first hand—after hearing about it for years through reading—that whether you tell yourself you’re going to be okay or not, you’re right.
The original quote is: “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.” – Henry Ford
The past few months I’ve been doing this thing where I don’t allow myself to think negative thoughts for more than a few seconds at a time. Then, I force myself to think positive thoughts.
When my mind says, “what if this bad thing happens?”
In the past, I would say, “oh my, you’re right. What if it does happen? What am I going to do???”
Now, I say, “what if it doesn’t? Why don’t you stop putting worries into my head that have nothing to do with my actual life. If I ever cross the bridge of one of your concerns, then I’ll listen to you. For now, leave me alone unless you’ve got something really worth worrying about.”
And, I can tell you, most of the time our anxieties are completely ridiculous. I’m sure most of you would agree with me when it comes right down to it.
When I’m at work and I ask someone how they are doing, a lot of them respond with, “I could be better.”
I always counter it with, “yeah, well, you could also be worse.”
It doesn’t bother me to throw it back in their face. Mostly because that used to be my attitude. Instead of focusing on everything I had going for me, I always resorted to all of the “bad” things.
We could all always be better. There’s always something we don’t have that would make our lives easier if we had it. But, on that same level, we could also be a hell of a lot worse.
When I wake up, each morning, I tell myself it’s going to be a good day. Nothing is going to stop that from happening unless it’s an extreme case.
If something bad or embarrassing happens to me during the day—something that would have ruined the whole 24 hours—I let myself feel whatever it is for a few seconds, then I move on.
“It happened. You can’t take it back. Move past it. Have a good day.”
This also goes back to my whole 5,4,3,2,1 rule. Countdown from five. Once you reach zero, it’s time to move on with whatever you’ve gotta do.
Your days can’t be ruined by little meaningless things unless you let them. Even the more powerful “bad” things that happen don’t have to take over your whole life—not forever. If you can develop an understanding with your mind, you’ll be able to navigate your feelings a whole lot better.
Today, maybe, write down 3-5 things you’re grateful for and why.
Here’s my list (doesn’t have to be anything special):
1. My health – for allowing me to do all of the things I do every day
2. My dog, Espn, who never fails to put a smile on my face
3. Books – They get me through a lot
4. Music – it’s how I start and end each day, with a lot of time spent in between
5. My car – I’d be really messed up without it
Have a great rest of your day.